It is incredible how every single part of you is connected to another. If you feel the pain in one spot, that pain is connected to another spot in your body. Considering this, when you feel something emotionally, you feel that in your body as well. Our body can give us a sign when we are not with the person we are supposed to be. Following the same reaction, it also shows when you are with the right person so only by paying a bit of attention to these signs you can find out if the person you are with is to be there forever or not! Here are what the signs say.
Smiling is one of the things that you cannot control at all when you think about the person you are madly in love with. There is no way for you to say their name without having a smile on your face. Now if you are with someone you are not in love with, you only pretend to be, or if you are with someone who makes you feel sad and exhausted all the time, that is when you stop smiling when you think of them. If you have noticed that missing from your face, then the person you are with is not the one…
If you are with the right person, he makes you feel good about yourself. Whatever chances he gets, he tries to boost your confidence and help you with your self-esteem. Something that the wrong person will not do for you no matter how much you believe he is the right one for you. All he can care about is himself and even at times, he criticises you in a way that destroys your self-esteem. According to Eharmony, when the woman is with the right person, she is at the highest level of her self-esteem.
3. Emotionally Exhausted
If you ever felt tired and exhausted as the result of a relationship then it is likely that you are dealing with a person who, in psychological terms, is referred to as an emotional vampire! The definition of this term might sound ridiculous but it does reflect the mechanism of vampire interactions. They consciously or unconsciously drain your energy. They take advantage of the people around them. By doing that, the vampire of the relationship gets stronger and stronger every single day but leaves us feeling empty exhausted, depressed, sad, guilty, angry.
This may even cause some reactions in your body such as headaches, muscle tension, and general weakness. The behavior pattern of an energy vampire is a fixed set that we are going to mention them all one by one. The first sign that you are dating an emotional vampire is the feeling of pumping out! You constantly feel tired and it is difficult to manage the relationship. Every conversation, every topic, becomes a new cause of a headache and tension for you.
There is a need for an energy sucker to be reassured of the love that you have for them constantly which makes it even more difficult because you have to spend a lot of energy proving obvious! And of course, that does not stop here! The next thing that will happen to you is answering their stupidly obsessive questions such as… "Are you angry at me?" Or "Did I do something wrong?", "Did something happen?"; Although at the beginning it can be interpreted in favor of a vampire and even just being a gesture of altruism ("I care about your well-being"), it will turn into a nightmare and instead of calming you down, pisses you off!
Eharmony says: "Every woman looks at their relationship carefully. Not one woman can say that she hasn’t convinced herself that something is right when it’s clearly not."
If you are with the right person and in a healthy relationship, there is no need for you to convince yourself and the others around you the whole time that you are with the right person! However, when you are with the wrong one, you are in the denial the whole time. You do not want to believe that he is not the right one for you so you even have conflicts with your own self!
5. Neglect Yourself
When you are in a relationship with someone you are not supposed to be with, there are so many things that can change in you and that change is not supposedly something good that is happening. Sometimes you completely forget all about yourself. In fact, you decide to choose him over yourself. Based on what is written in Psychology Today: "When a woman is in a relationship with her man, she also has to maintain the relationship with herself. But if she ends up choosing the man over herself, she has either given in or given up on the relationship she had with herself."
6. Let it be
At some point in your relationship, things get so tiring that you’d just rather sit right there, doing nothing and wait for everything to happen the way it wants to happen. At some point, you no longer see the power in you to change things for a better one. You just want it to end because you are so tired of everything! That is the time where you need to get yourself together and be 100% sure that he is just not the one for you! No matter when you decide to end it, it is never too late as long as you are aware.
If anything like this happened to you, start with a discrete expression of your discomfort and dissatisfaction. If you are lucky and dealing with an intelligent person, your relationships will begin to improve. Do not get involved in a toxic relationship. Be assertive, do not be provocative and entangle. Border the limits. Protect your mental and physical comfort zone. Give short, meaningful answers. Do not be fooled by the details, do not reveal the weak points to him. Get out of it as soon as possible and wait for the one to show up.