Grace Massoud wrote this article in MTV Website:
I’d like to think that at this stage I’ve reached my highest level of not caring about things that don’t matter. There’s always room for improvement though. A critical point in living a full and satisfying life is not sweating the small stuff and directing all your energy and attention towards things that support your values.
Did you know that four rules will help you reach this state of not caring?
Mel Robbins, American podcast host, TV Presenter, author, motivational speaker, former legal analyst on CNN and former lawyer has just this week spilled the beans on these four rules.
First of all, this insightful and impressive lady advises us to start caring excessively. Lay in bed at night worrying about what your friends are up to, what is everyone thinking, what will occur in the upcoming days, any and every little insignificant thing, stress about it. See how it makes you feel. After you’ve done this exercise of self-inflicting pain, think if it works for you. If it did, you’d have more time on your hands and you’d be happier. It is liberating to come to the realization that you get in your own way and rob yourself of your own happiness, energy, focus, and confidence when you waste time on being worrisome.
Secondly, always keep this engraved in your mind. Almost everybody you meet has an emotional maturity level somewhere between eight and twelve years. Most people’s disappointment is an eight year old throwing a tantrum. This statement blew my mind. We mistakenly assume that a grown man has an adult maturity level while this is not the case for 99% of the population. Always consider the difficult person in your life, and everybody really, as a twelve year old to be able to relate to them on a human level and see their admirable qualities such as playfulness and creativity. You will be concerned a lot less with their reactions.
Thirdly, picture a seesaw. There’s a balancing act between what is expected of you versus being yourself. Take a good close look at where you can bring things more into balance. There’s a time and place for self-expression at its finest and to be cavalier. The workplace cannot be one of them regrettably. Procedures and regulations dictate a particular behavior and code of conduct which you are getting paid to adhere by in addition to performing a certain service. In your home on another hand, you might’ve been stuck your whole life in a certain role that no longer serves you or even reflects who you are. Adjust that seesaw, put more weight into the things that align with you and remove it from relationships and situations that don’t resemble you. Take a good look at where you have stopped being you and started caring about insignificant things. Hopefully, you’ll find the courage to choose to stay true to your values and your identity as often as you can manage it.
The fourth and final rule is this: You go first. Strive to be the one to bring the fun and the crazy in all situations. There’s something liberating about a person willing to act silly, goofy and not care how they come off to others. Take a selfie looking like all kinds of crap, having just finished an intense workout session, no makeup on. And why not? This is how we really look like anyways. Break free from the shackles of looks, being dressed to the nines and being overly critical of your appearance. This will automatically make you drop the negative comments about peoples’ looks and endorse real connections with others.
Lose the filters, put it all out there.
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