Grace Massoud wrote this article in MTV Website:
Yesterday, during a long visit to the hairdresser’s getting my hair colored and highlighted, I struck up a conversation with a complete stranger, which is not unlike me. She turned out to be the most interesting lady, a Lebanese psychotherapist practicing in Amsterdam and working remotely for Saudi Arabia. We discussed marriage and couples therapy. We stressed how crucial it is to work on yourself for yourself before ever considering entering into a relationship, if you want it to have a fighting chance that is and avoid going to divorce court.
Do you realize that it’s a huge responsibility to hold someone’s heart in the palm of your hand? When you actually do the work on yourself, not only will you enjoy life more but you will be a blessing and of immense added value to your counterpart. You will avoid most arguments that lead to separation, or at least have the capacity and know-how to work through them.
As it happens, a subject that’s been bugging me for years is the refusal of some people to get therapeutic help when it’s blatantly obvious to everyone around them that they sorely need it.
On a personal level, I’ve had to extensively enhance my skills and knowledge to figure out how to deal with people in my environment who clearly need professional help. They spew their insecurities, their self-loathing unto people by verbally abusing and straight up harming and back-stabbing them just because they’re in a position to do so. I say to these people who inflict their sour dispositions unto others: please, get help, get happy, drop your arms and realize there’s plenty of success, love, attention and money to go around.
Therapy has stopped being a taboo subject in Lebanon and it’s become more and more common to see a professional. Everyone should as a matter of fact. And why wouldn’t it be completely normal? We tend to our bodies by hitting the gym and going to the spa, we cultivate our intellect by attending school and university, why would we neglect our mental and emotional states which dictate how we perform everywhere else?
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